Preparing for Marriage
Marriage is a special sacrament uniting a man and a woman in faithful love for their natural lives. God’s blessing on this love is a rich and rewarding gift which will bear fruit throughout their married days. Statistics increasingly show that couples who undertake marriage preparation have a far greater chance of a happy fulfilling marriage, and we certainly want that for you. Here at Cathedral Parish, engaged couples receive pre-marriage education and mentoring from a team including the priest and married couples of the parish.
Using the resources and material of the SmartLoving Engaged course couples will meet with a mentor couple from our parish who are trained to assist you prepare practically and spiritually for this wonderful adventure which is your married life together. The course is made up of six sessions and the topics discussed cover many issues facing couples in married life, from faith to cultural differences, to family influences and finances. To find out more about the course and content of each session, visit the SmartLoving Engaged website.
Finally you will spend some time with your priest to complete the preparation and to consider the practicalities of the ceremony.
We are delighted that you are asking to receive the Sacrament of Marriage in the Catholic Church. To begin your preparation course or to find out more please contact our parish priest.
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh, so then, they are no longer two but one flesh…
Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Session 1: Mission to Love
This session introduces the concept of Smart Loving – a practical insight designed to make a couple’s efforts to love more efficient by helping them learn the specific ways in which their fiancé experiences love. The role of affirmation is also addressed.
Session 2: Dialogue, Being One
Using the L.I.F.E. communication framework, couples will learn how to communicate effectively and intimately. A technique for accomplishing Emotional Communion (empathy) is also taught.
Session 3: Knowing Me, Knowing You
A detailed examination of the couple’s attitudes and beliefs about sexuality and marriage, looking particularly at their family of origin. The impact of other significant relationships including emotional injuries is addressed.
Session 4: Building Unity
Couples learn how to use the Stop-Reflect-Connect tool for values based decision making. Conflict and the role of forgiveness is examined, including an adaptation for the Stop-Reflect-Connect tool for the specific purpose of reconciliation.
Session 5: Sex, Sacred Embrace
Examines how, contrary to popular belief, marital sex is an intimate communication rather than just a recreational activity. The concept of sex as a sacramental gesture and a renewal of wedding vows is explored. A take home DVD provides a summary of key concepts regarding sexuality with a discussion of natural fertility methods and their benefits.
Session 6: Soul Mates for Life
Addresses the sacramentality of marriage and will direct couples towards spiritual intimacy with their fiancé. Specific issues relating to couples of mixed faith are addressed along with an introduction to couple prayer.
“Enjoyable, revealing and rewarding, you’ll be encouraged to consider things you may not even be aware you need to think about.”
Jason & KatlynSmartLoving Graduates
“We’ve come out with a better understanding of who we are individually and where we want to go collectively as a married couple with actual plans. We’ve already implemented a few of the techniques we’ve learnt from the course.”
Maria & LucioSmartLoving Graduates
“We have already recommended the course to our friends. It is really applicable, even for non-religious couples. The skills we learned we will continue to use throughout our marriage.”
Nick & GraceSmartLoving Graduates